To me has helped me a lot psychological therapy. I believe that maintaining a positive attitude-realistic has helped me to be better physically. It is easy to be in absolute tragedy, we have a thousand reasons. But if we live in that reality we can never enjoy anything.
At first I feel sorry a lot and I was trying to do all that before made me feel good. Obviously he couldn't do anything and ended up sad, frustrated, angry, tired, etc For me the best thing was to try to pretend that everything was the same. My therapist helped me see that accepting my limitations I could find a space in which to be happy. I put a real example:
"After several bad months, my husband decided to surprise me with a mini vacation, 3 diítas on the beach. I tried to do that same that you did before: since early I went down to the beach, I was taking the sun and a half-day a stroll along the avenue on the way to the hotel, stop for lunch and a few mojitos at the foot of the pool.
Are the dream vacation for anyone isn't it? This is what you have to do to be able to enjoy them right? Of course there were some terrible days, I discussed with my partner, and for many weeks later I suffered a lot thinking that there was nothing I could do to be happy.
After months of therapy, my husband and I went back to repeat the escapade, this time knowing the lesson. Avoiding everything that affects me: the exposure to the sun, physical effort, alcohol, etc, I took advantage and slept in a bed great, went in car to the beach late in the afternoon and then enjoyed on a terrace with the breeze of the night. This time I was happy. I enjoyed the novelty of a chat with my husband and we focus on what is good and not on limitations."
It is terribly difficult to accept that we are no longer the same, but it is necessary to be able to move forward. I'm sure that your new self, you have qualities that will surprise you. In the end we have not chosen to be in this war, but if we can choose what attitude the face.